Where have I been? What did I accomplish?
What would I do differently?”
of my home study where I hold my sessions."
I was trained by Cruse Bereavement Care where I gained a deeper understanding of coping with loss and death of a loved one.
Whilst there I came upon this poem of support which is self-explanatory:
Don’t tell me that you understand.
Don’t tell me that you know.
Don’t tell me that I will survive,
How I will surely grow.
Don’t come at me with answers
That can only come from me.
Don’t tell me how my grief will pass,
That I will soon be free.
Accept me in my ups and downs.
I need someone to share.
Just hold my hand and let me cry
And say, “My friend, I care.
How can support help me?
Many years later I have learnt through my therapeutic work and personal experience of grief and loss the real meaning behind the words of this poem.
Client’s come with many presenting issues when they first start counselling/psychotherapy. For example, anxiety related issues, stress, depression, anger, relationship issues and many more. It’s only when you peel the layers you find that the underlying problem (in many cases) is unresolved grief issues which is hindering their present day life and possibly their future prospects.
Bereavement Counselling can help you come to terms with unresolved grief which has been too painful to bring to the fore previously and will help you to explore the relationship between your current behavioural/emotional issues and unresolved grief/loss. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to get help to start ‘living’ again rather than ‘existing’?
Parkes, C.M. (2009). Love and Loss – The Roots of Grief and its Complications, London: Routledge.
“I don’t know how I could have coped without your support. It was a huge struggle for me to talk about my emotions, my loss, and my grief. I felt held, listened to and emotionally safe with you. Thank you.”
Mrs Margaret B.