Where have I been? What did I accomplish?
What would I do differently?”
to step back , take a breath and assess your partnership.
Counselling for Couples
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT is rapidly gaining attention in the US as the gold standard therapy for helping couples reconnect. It is also useful for helping singles to understand themselves and improve their chances in the search for love. EFT is a short-term (8 – 20 sessions) structured approach to couple’s therapy developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg in the 1980’s, which is based on John Bowlby’s Attachment research over 50 years ago. Bowlby found that humans and higher primate animals appeared to have an innate need to feel attached to and comforted by significant others. EFT is grounded in research while focusing on negative communication patterns and love as an attachment bond.
Attachment between people typically provides a safe haven; a retreat from the world and a way to obtain comfort, security and a buffer against stress. Attachment also offers a secure base, allowing you to feel safe while you explore the world and learn new information. Its formation begins in childhood with a primary caretaker, such as a parent. Those early, established patterns carry through to adulthood. An “unavailable caretaker” creates distress in a baby akin to an “unavailable partner” creating distress in an adult. Attachment theory provides the emotionally-focused therapist with a “road map” to the drama of distress, emotions and needs between partners.
Blame & Criticism
Isolation and feelings
Cross Cultural Relationships
Working with you
Whether you have come to explore problems in their early stage, or difficulties that feel entrenched and insurmountable, we will work together towards creating lasting change, which will support you when facing future challenges together.
“I felt alone in my relationship with my partner. Embarking on couples counselling was a brave effort, but we are grateful for doing this as now we feel emotionally safe with each other and can turn towards each other when feel dis-connected rather than walk away from each other”
Client E & A